Forgiveness
The Real Key to Marriage
Why it’s not “Communication”
I’ve heard many people state that the key to a strong, healthy marriage is communication. I don’t think that goes deep enough. For example, cutting words and sharp criticism are effective forms of communication. They get the job done, but are not going to enhance relationships. Some couples can communicate politely and copiously — much like a good customer service representative — while letting resentment build below the surface. In order for communication to be a support pillar in marriage, there must be an atmosphere of grace, an environment where we know that mistakes are going to be made, but there will be space to own those mistakes, to learn from them, to become better, and to ultimately grow together. In order to have that kind of grace-filled space, there needs to be . . .